The harsh reality is that you are a cog in the great machine, a replaceable part. The industrialization of education and employment has trained you to be an obedient worker. The philosophy is reinforced like a Pavlovian Experiment — In Pavlov's initial experiments, he presented a stimulus and then gave the dog food; after a few repetitions, the dogs started to salivate in response to the stimulus.
What are the stimuli that make you an obedient worker? The paycheck. The possibiliy of a promotion. Or the likelihood the boss will acknowledge your effort. Breaking the dependency on the stimuli is difficult. You have been conditioned for decades to follow the rules, to fit in to be average and not create a ruckus.
“The only way to get what you are worth is to stand out, to exert emotional labor, to be seen as indispensable, and to produce interactions that organizations and people care deeply about.” — Seth Godin, Author Linchpin
I did not decide one morning to break with convention and seek out my worth; it was a series of events. I became increasingly fatigued with the narrative that I was not good enough. As the conversation devolved, I became increasingly desperate. The hopelessness short-circuited the Pavlovian response and allowed me to believe that I can become indispensable.
Tony Robbins, a motivational speaker, explains that in order for human beings to change their state of being they need to be either desperate or inspired. Your mission if you wish to accept it is to find your inspiration or desperation. Then use that energy to fuel your belief that you are so valuable that you are never at the mercy of someone else’s decisions.
When you accept the results that you are valuable, you build belief in the potential of what you can accomplish.