Choices and Success

Your definition of success is different than mine. Why? Because success is about being who you want to be. Doing what you want to do and going where you want to go. Those are your choices and those decisions are as unique as you. In fact, you are who you are because of those choices.

Unfortunately, that range of possibilities is also what defines your level of success. Why, because the choices you make are not created in a silo. They are influenced by a tapestry of key individuals like, mom, dad, friends and teachers. Their impact on you is embedded into the DNA of your decision making process.

For me, my choices were standard; go to college, get a job, be a good employee, get married, and have kids. In large part, those possibilities where predefined by the key individuals in my life. But there was an undeniable pressure inside of me that wanted more. Wanted no regrets. Wanted to die on empty.

But how do you divorce the internal narrative that peppers any deviation from the normal, with self-sabotage, self-deception and self-corruption?

You change your standard. I found three strategies that are helping me raise my standards:

1. Read books that solve your problems.
Books are treasures of information. You must focus on the books that solve your problems. Why? Because you become what you consistently focus on and take action on.

2. Get around individuals that are more successful than you.
You are the sum total of the five people you surround yourself with. So if you want to raise your standards, surrounding yourself with individuals who are more successful, understand your struggles and are willing to help you, is critical.

3. Set one overarching Goal then support it with twenty ideas.
Goal setting is important but it's also misemployed. More times than not you try accomplishing too much too fast and you get frustrated so you never accomplish anything. I use Daniel Ally's, millionaire mentor, strategy -- "20 Idea Method:"

  • Create one overarching goal.
  • List 20 supporting ideas.
  • Now create your 1 year and 3 year plans.

And do you need to wait until New Years? No! You need to start now. Because for every day you procrastinate that is another day you will regret.