Why Things Will Not Get Better. Until You Ask This Question


Do me a favor and stop complaining about how much your life sucks. How your kids are a pain in the ass. How you and your wife have not had sex in over a year. How you are always tired and especially about hating your job. Just stop because no one cares to hear the complaints.

Yes, people will say, "It will be ok." Or "Things will get better." And the granddaddy of comforting words, "It happens to everybody." Yes, these soothsayers mean well but the problem is not your life or your kids or your wife or even your job, the problem is you. Why, because you are doing little to improve your present, or positively impact your future, you live in the rearview mirror, and that is why your life sucks.

Listen, this is not an intervention; it's just me talking to you. I have lived in the rearview mirror for over three decades. I allowed past experiences to determine what standard of success I was comfortable achieving. And what was the baseline... remarkably average. And I can't forget to mention my two "best" friends:

  • You’re not good enough! And.
  • Who do you think you are?

They did an impeccable job dissuading me from pursuing any experience that would improve my life.

Don't feel sorry for me, who do you think you are? I don't feel sorry for you. Feeling sorry for your situation is a validation of your remarkably average life. Instead ask yourself a better question, "In light of my past experiences, my current circumstances, and my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing for me to do?"

Andy Stanley, founder North Point Ministries, explains that when making decisions, you should always ask yourself, that question. That is a power question because it's not asking you what is the right thing to do or the legal thing to do or even the logical thing to do. It’s asking you what is the wise thing to do based on your past experiences, current circumstances, and future hopes and dreams.

Wow! Talk about a punch in the gut. The question forces you to stop and perform a self-evaluation. That is the question that changed my life. That is the question that made me see my life as an opportunity and not an obligation. That is the question that you must now sit with because it will give you the leverage to raise your standard of living.

And when you raise your standard of living you will begin to operate at your maximum potential.