Tony Robbins, a life performance coach, explains that one of the most important elements to success is hunger. It is the fuel that feeds your dreams into reality; which binds the tribe and gives birth to the movement. So are you hungry?
I had a laundry list and still do, of dreams...
- In becoming an NYC police officer.
- In becoming a professional baseball player.
- In becoming an astronaut.
- In becoming a Navy Seal.
But none of those dreams came true. Now I was hungry in becoming a police officer or astronaut, but I lacked the next most important element to success -- effort. Marc Cuban, the owner of the Dallas Mavericks, explains, “You should go where your effort takes you.”
One of the biggest lies in mentoring is when you are told to follow your dreams. I have found that when you follow your dreams without hunger and effort, those dreams rarely become a reality. Why...
- Because you have a dream that you don’t believe in.
- Because you don't believe, you have little potential to make that dream come true.
- Because you have low potential, you take little action on that dream.
- Because you take little action, you get poor results in making your dream come true.
So you have a failed dream. And another. And another. The continuous cycle of not achieving becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy of ”You're not good enough.” So your internal dialogue disempowers you and convinces you that it's safer to be average:
- It's safer to work 40 hours a week.
- It's safer to never question authority.
- It's safer never to stand out.
- It's safer to never challenge the status quo.
And let me be honest, living safer is a life slathered in regret; because you never kissed that girl, or married that boy, or took that job or disagreed with your boss.
Instead of having a trophy room filled with wants you must raise your standard and create a list of musts. Start with what breaks your heart? Let that conversation marinate. Let it make you hungry. Let it stoke your effort in turning that dream into a reality.
As you are following your effort, don't allow your internal narrative to derail your endeavors. It's important to leverage your fear; you must be more afraid of what your life will look like if you don't take action. Steven Pressfield, the author of The War of Art, explains "Fear is good. Like self-doubt, fear is an indicator. Fear tells us what we have to do. Remember one rule of thumb: the more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it.”
When you are at the end of your days, sitting in your rocking chair, you want to look back on your life and know that you have lived a full life and that you will die on empty.