Abstinence

Do you find yourself, abstaining from spending time with you? Are you scared of the obligation or the opportunities? Regardless of your rational, you are still responsible for your actions or inactions. I saw every choice in my life as a burden, as something that I have to do.

So instead of moving forward I stood in silence and gave others permission to set my agenda. My silence gave birth to unhappiness which bred despair and finally leveled off into desolation until I violently plowed into the threshold.

The point where the torment is so severe you are forced to make a decision -- pain or pleasure? The quality of your life is the quality of the consistent emotions you experience. And making that significant mental shift is necessary before you take any massive action.

Tony Robbins, the author of Money: Master The Game, explains this shift in the diagram:

The strategy is rather simple, here is how you typically take action:

  1. You believe...
  2. That you have little potential...
  3. So you take little action...
  4. And you get poor results...
  5. Which reinforces your belief that you have little potential...

As the process cycles through, it feeds on itself and even before you’ve started taking massive action you have convinced yourself that, “You're not good enough.”

But what if something could fill you with absolute certainty. A belief so powerful that you knew with certainty, “You are good enough.” What would that process look like:

  1. You are certain...
  2. That you have massive potential...
  3. So you take massive action...
  4. And you get better results...
  5. Which reinforces your belief that you have massive potential...

Now, as this process cycles through, it begins to condition your mind, “You're good enough.”

So what happened? How did you begin to believe, with certainty, that you will get better results? Simple, you thought it in your head, first.

The mind affects your performance so if you believe that you can never do “a” thing, then you are right. But, if you can see the result you are conditioning your mind into believing that you can accomplish it. And an interesting thing begins to evolve... you start spending more time with yourself, and growing the skills you need to achieve your vision.