The One Reason You are Not Where You Want To Be

Throughout your life, periodically, three questions will haunt you:

  • What have I done with my life?
  • What do I want to do with my life?
  • What am I passionate about?

Unfortunately, I have found the above questions become more present as you get older.

Why, because we are beginning to understand the significance of our mortality. So the concept of your life’s purpose becomes a prominent conversation. Most of us don’t have a clue what we want to do with our lives. So we follow convention:

  • High school
  • College
  • Job
  • Marriage
  • Family
  • Retire
  • Die

And then we rise and repeat for the next generation.

I have been questioning my purpose in life for the past two years. At first it was a faint whisper. Today it’s a rock concert in my head. I look at my beautiful boys, and it upsets me to think that I am grooming them to live an average life.

Richard Leider, the author of the Life Reimagined, found that most people regretted living an average life. They wished they knew what they wanted out of life. That instead of living an average life, it was more of a remarkable life.

Leider interviewed hundreds of people over the age of 65 and asked them one question, “If you could live your life over again what would you do differently?” And three themes kept repeating:

  1. I would be more reflective.
  2. I would be more courageous.
  3. I would understand my purpose.

If this small sample of people regretted living an average life, for the sake of argument, I would say that everyone has the same regret. So the real question is why are you living your life the way other people expect you too?

The answer is story. Or more specifically the stories you tell yourself that limit your belief in your potential.

You see, it’s not fear that limits your potential in life. Fear is a primal emotion designed to keep you safe from harm. It’s your disempowering story that you are not good enough that keep you from living a remarkable life:

  • I am not good enough to date him.
  • I am not good enough for that job.
  • I am not good enough for anyone.

So how do you divorce those disempowering stories? By believing with certainty that you are good enough. Yes, you have to change your state of mind.

I know that sounds like a bunch of bullshit. But the first few words in this Mindshift video echo my statement, “There is nothing more powerful than a changed mind.”

By changing your mindset to believe with certainty in your potential, you give yourself permission to take massive action, which gets you amazing results, which then feeds your belief in your potential.

And that becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy of your success. So I hope this video will give you the inspiration to start believing in your potential.