You want to become the best version of yourself, but you are always failing to achieve the goal.
You're not failing because you lack motivation. You are failing because you lack guidance. Every person that has achieved their best version have done so because they had guidance. English mathematician Isaac Newton expressed:
“If I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.”
I have always enjoyed Newton’s quote, but Scott Dinsmore words resonate more with me:
“Find people who are ridiculously good at something and follow in their steps.”
When you stand on the shoulders of giants or find people who are ridiculously good, what you are doing is modeling: observing and mapping the successful processes which underlie an exceptional performance of some type. Before you begin your journey, first do an inventory of where you are and where you want to be. Then find someone to model.
You could speak to that person directly, but it might be easier if you studied their books, articles, podcasts, and videos. What you are looking for is:
- Their 80/20
- What they do
- What they don’t do
You must also pay particular attention to what you refuse to model because it goes against your values.
So what is the one area of your life that you want to improve? Now find someone that is ridiculously good in that area and put in the hard work to accelerate your success.