Are You a Slave to the Unremarkably Average Mindset: 3 Questions to Help You Break the Unremarkably Average Mindset

You want to become the best version of yourself so that you are never at the mercy of someone else’s agenda.

Unfortunately, the journey ahead of you is peppered with a fantastic amount of obstacles, and your internal voice is telling you that you are not good enough. Regrettably, your status quo mindset is forcing you to conform to the world’s expectations to live a safe and conventional life.

I know the struggle. Breaking from the unremarkably average mindset is difficult. It’s intoxicating and sometimes dangerous; especially when you start asking complex questions such as:

  1. What are your curiosities?
  2. What are your passions?
  3. What is your purpose?

Ultimately, the questions are tools helping you understand what you might become, only if you break from convention. Seneca illustrates, “But the man who spends all his time on his own needs, who organizes every day as though it were his last, neither longs for nor fears the next day. For what new pleasures can any hour now bring him? He has tried everything, and enjoyed everything to repletion.”

So you have a choice, take the red pill or blue pill? Morpheus expressed to Neo, “You take the blue pill, the story ends. You wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.”

Neo hesitates. Why, because as human being we are risk averse; your lizard brain is your source of all hesitation. Unfortunately, I can’t make you choose the red pill, that decision can only be made by you -- all I can do is help you make better decisions.

I would like to make one additional argument before you decide; you are going to die. Seneca explains, “It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it. Life is long enough, and a sufficiently generous amount has been given to us for the highest achievements if it were all well invested. But when it is wasted in heedless luxury and spent on no good activity, we are forced at last by death’s final constraint to realize that it has passed away before we knew it was passing.”

While your time is finite, you have been given enough time to reach your highest achievements. To do so, I refer you back to my three original questions:

  1. What are your curiosities?
  2. What are your passions?
  3. What is your purpose?

Steven Pressfield states, “The goal is to connect with your own self, your own soul.” Pressfield continues, “Get out there and fail and find out.” You will fail more than you succeed but the failure is the test, the membrane that filters the unremarkable average from the remarkable few.

Originally Posted On: Medium