I was having lunch with a good friend, let’s call him John.
John explained that he is practicing gratitude over expectation. John expressed ever since he turned that practice into a habit; John has been happier, laser focused and deliberate about his actions.
After lunch I began to think, have I been grateful? The better question is, "Have you been practicing gratitude?"
You see expectation is a supposition that something will happen or be the case in the future. And when that future ”thing” does not materialize, as expected, you become upset. You might even carry that anger with you throughout the day and unconsciously be mean to your wife, your kids or a team member.
Admittedly, I have allowed my expectations to get the better of me. Have you?
Research by UC Davis psychologist Robert Emmons, author of Thanks!: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier, explains that keeping a gratitude journal and habitually writing reflections on moments for which we’re thankful can increase your well-being and life satisfaction.
I journal sporadically, but I am focusing on making it part of my daily habit.
I like using DayOne for the MAC and iOS; it’s clean and straightforward. But you can also use a notebook or whatever you like to use for journaling. The medium does not matter it’s the act of, that matters most.
A massive component of the value you add to your life, and the lives of others is based on your emotional health. So do you want to subscribe to a life of unregulated emotions? Or would you rather be mindful of your feelings and correct your state before it adversely affects your decisions?