For the sake of argument, the story you tell has a significant impact on the level of your success. The story, the internal narrative that starts when your lizard brain senses danger will disempower you.
Author and researcher, Brene Brown explains that the story is important because it tells you everything you are afraid of. And I could not agree more with Brown’s statement; I have a fear of publishing my written thoughts. Why, because some random person that I don’t know will proclaim, “Wow your writing sucks!”
And while I should not care what one person says, that is the comment that will initiate the internal narrative, and it drives two tapes:
- You're not good enough.
- Who do you think you are?
The tape would feed the seeds of doubt driving me to question the quality of my writing. And that is what many of us do, especially in the creative community. But retreating is not the only option; Brene explains that you must recognize that you have been engaged by the emotion and get curious about it. Ask yourself:
- What story are you making up?
- Is it true?
- What do you need to know more about?
Asking these questions will give you the strategy to rumble with the emotion and come through it with a better understanding of your emotional physiology. And when you can understand the emotional journey, you have the authority to turn a disempowering story into one that empowers you.