You are unremarkably normal...
... if you are disengaged with your job, and you blame your boss.
... if you have 2.6 credit cards, and eyeing a 3rd.
... if you sleep 6.8 hours at night, and you're proud of it.
... if you are 30 pounds overweight, and you're working on another 10.
... if you are in a sexless relationship, and your surrogate is Pornhub.
... if you just do your job, and not an ounce more.
... if you say "not my job," but complain "they" don't give you more responsibilities.
... if you watch over 33 hours of TV per week, and claim you have no time.
... if you daydream of a better life but binge watches Daredevil on Netflix.
... if you read less than 6 books per year, and they are all fiction.
... if you live paycheck to paycheck and then pull out your 3rd credit card.
The unremarkably normal life sounds divine. You are providing a public service by conforming to the world's expectations in support of the status quo, and the world thanks-you.
Ouch! Did I just offend you?
Did that narrative leave you feeling a bit annoyed? Upset? Agitated? If it did then keep reading. If it did not then thank-you for your service and have a wonderfully unremarkably normal life.
I am leaving space for the...
.... and you are back! I am glad you stayed. It's not easy breaking ranks from the unremarkably normal tribe. I will assume the reason you are failing to conform is because you have hit your threshold -- the moment you realized you're done and refuse to experience any more pain.
Good but I will be honest with you, the new journey is peppered with failure and slathered in doubt. I don't want you panic and don't let anxiety convince you that you've made a terrible choice. There is a clear alternative to the unremarkably normal life, it will just take consistent focus and action to get you where you want to be.
I have failed on my journey, to where I want to be, more times than I care to mention. On a daily basis, I am fighting off my limiting psychology -- the story I am telling myself why I can't. But every day I wake up excited about today’s opportunity. Why, because I am more afraid of what my life will look like if I don't die on empty. I am using the pain of not achieving my dreams to keep me focused on what matters -- adding value.
So what is the plan, for you? I am sad to say there is no plan for you. At least not yet. Change is not immediate, and there is no overnight success, your journey must develop one step at a time. Why, because it's critical that you first divorce your limiting psychology so you can begin looking at the opportunities in your life and not the obligations.
So the first strategy is to get you thinking differently:
- What are you grateful for?
- Where are you right now?
- Where do you want to be?
- What value do you want to add to the world?
- What is your limiting psychology?
- What are the consistent emotions you are experiencing?
- Does your vision of where you want to be, excite you?
- What daily actions must you take, to get you where you want to be?
- Who will you have to become, to get you where you want to be?
- How will you accomplish what you need to do, to get you where you want to be?
- What meaning do you want your life to have?
These questions are not in the order of importance but they do build off each other. You will need to dedicate time to these issues because they will help in detoxing your limiting psychology. Starting today you will change your story from living your life to designing your life.