What are your rules for success? These are the guidelines that will help you get from where you are to where you want to be; without them your success is in jeopardy.
Les Brown, an international motivational speaker, has ten rules that will help you live your life on purpose. While I think those rules are necessary I want to focus on the most important item:
Rule #1. You Must Believe in Yourself.
That rule is the foundation and without it, all your other endeavors will fail.
The issue at hand is that the belief in yourself is in large part governed by Resistance. Steven Pressfield, the author of the War of Art, explains, “Most of us have two lives: the life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”
So Resistance is the invisible bogeyman that terrifies you into believing that you can’t do it. You can’t do it because you're not good enough. Or you can’t do it because who do you think you are? Unfortunately, will power alone is inefficient to claim victory over Resistance.
But the bogeyman can be managed. Your internal dialogue of “I am not good enough.” can be hushed to a whisper, but you will need a few tools.
Here are some questions that I use to manage my Resistance:
Will the consequences of this action increase or decrease my self-esteem?
That is perhaps that most important question you can ask yourself. Why, because it’s the tool that allows you to filter (out) those actions that will not help you build your belief in you.
If I video me for 24 hours 7 days a week would I hire myself or date myself?
This question is a compelling investigative question because if you would not date yourself or hire yourself, then why would anyone else. So make a list of what you need to do to date yourself or hire yourself.
And do that every day.
What are my bad habits and how do I change them?
Changing bad habits into healthy habits is critical to re-programming your mental state for success. Charles Duhigg, author of The Power Of Habit explains, “Rather, to change a habit, you must keep the old cue, and deliver the old reward, but insert a new routine.”
This strategy helps you to break a bad habit and form a healthy habit.
I hope that you can take these tools and use them with success. I have been using these questions, and they have allowed me to focus less on my internal dialogue and more on the vision of where I want to be.